Wednesday, March 5, 2014

3 ways to redemptive parenting

Despite the desire to be as perfect as possible, I know the goal of perfection is fantastical. But, as a mom, parenting is one area I wish I could perfect in a way that I don't emotionally hurt myself or my children.

It takes a lot to admit my job as a mom is the hardest I've ever done and will do. I find it even more difficult to be the parent I want to be with my anxiety and stress heightened as I fight a disease that uses a major portion of my brain and body.

So, what's a mom to do when the issue is going to require my long-term attention? And, to make matters worse, I am up against a trio of children who constantly give me a run for my money, wrack my brain, and test my nerves and patience more often than not.

Although I may not get this parenting thing right there are some things I can do to make this part of the rocky road little less bumpy.

1. Ask for forgiveness from my children and myself. This is a hard one.
2. Ask for more help. Hmmm, finding more help causes a little conundrum, but I hope it's not impossible.
3. Talk to my children more often about the battle we - as a family - are fighting. Unfortunately, cancer doesn't discriminate and it can cause upset through the entire household. Children don't completely understand, but they're just as concerned and scared. Balancing the battle and their childhood is difficult but necessary.

After almost 23 years of parenting I continue to seek that peaceful space that makes this job less work. From my perspective it seems like I haven't learned the nuances of this new generation of children. I don't recall parenting my oldest child years ago being so difficult. Either way, as I seek to be my best self I must also seek to be the mom my children deserve.











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