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Like me, many of you review the past year of your lives and determine what worked and what didn’t, what you want to do and what you don’t, and to accomplish it all you decide on a way to be a better you. I have that goal each year, I’m always striving to be a better me through continual introspection, growth and learning.
In one of those fated kinda ways I was offered a book that will help me be a better me through those aforementioned three things. “Making Sense of the Insensible – The Ten Injustices of Our Life Lessons” by Leonie Blackwell is divided into 11 chapters. It’s not a read-from-front-to-back book, you simply begin where you need to because each chapter is self contained.. It is a process and, as Blackwell writes in the book, “your life adventure.”
The injustices are…
I started with Chapter 9, The Injustice of Emotionality. Blackwell’s first words on the subject, after a poignant quote from Alanis Morissette, are: “The purpose of the injustice of emotionality is to assist us with issues of truth and authenticity in who we are.” The labels society puts on us, or that we put on ourselves, do not adequately explain us as individuals. They are simplified labels of our roles in this society.
“The collective experiences of childhood influences our interpretations, our assumptions, and our potential, adding further complexity and depth to how we access the truth of who we are and our capacity to be authentic with others.” We don’t to to question our experiences and believes that feed our unconscious mind resulting the way we think, talk, see and behave. Therefore, when we’re dealing with another person who has opposing experiences and beliefs or just differences in those experiences and beliefs what we believe we are saying and doing is not how others experience our words and actions.
Do you need to read that again?
I hope you know I’m joking and I also hope you know that I had to read the entire two pages surrounding this information at least three or four times thus far. This is a book where you highlight, circle, annotate and scribble in the margins. Even as I finish this chapter I return to previous pages to allow the information to sink in. This process actually helped me to put in perspective one of the heated points between men and women; whether in a relationship or not.
Let me explain:
In a conversation with a male acquaintance he said, in so many words, ‘women be playing games.’ I didn’t immediately react, but let his words swirl around in my brain. Something wasn’t right. Not only was that statement off and too generalized, but my mind was tingling with a new knowledge. I remembered these words: “…what we believe we are saying and doing is not how others experience our words and actions.”
Whereas a man would say a woman’s words or actions are her playing a game because they – the man – didn’t get what they wanted, it is really just a misinterpretation of the woman’s intention. And her inability or disinterest in communicating in a way she’ll understand. To him I relay the first part of the thought, that instead of assuming what she was communicating just inquire as to her intentions. He was silent. To question her intentions never occurred to him and, on my side of things, it made me see why most people make assumptions regarding another’s words and actions.
There is way more to the chapter of The Injustice of Emotionality and to the book as a whole. Overall I found it to be an easy-to-read, discovery-type, “self help-ish” book filled with lessons for wherever you are in life.
From the book’s back cover:
Have you read every self-development book on the market? Are you looking for a book to talk to you about the reality of the ups and downs of life?
Leonie Blackwell explores ten injustices that can occur in our childhood, our adulthood or throughout our lives as recurring themes. They are often the events we spend a lifetime trying to make sense of.
The lessons of injustice come to us in three ways—how we treat others, how others treat us and how we treat ourselves. Regardless of the source of the experience, the goal is to embark on the journey of transformation and empowerment.
At the beginning of next month, this book will be one of the goodies included in a Happy New Year giveaway. If you can’t wait to read it I suggest you click the link here or the Amazon link above: Making Sense of the Insensible: The Ten Injustices of Our Life Lessons.