A few minutes ago I stepped outside of my front door in pajama pants and a tee shirt to stroll to my mailbox. I have no idea what the temperature is, but it’s a sunny, crisp day and the chill felt good on my skin. I took a deep breath hoping to release the tension that had entered my being moments before.
Nothing specific had happened in the previous few minutes, but a couple of days ago someone said something that they’ve been saying for quite awhile. That something was insulting the first time I heard it and it’s just as insulting to this day.
Some people never change so I don’t expect this person to ever stop saying it. Why? Oh after you know someone for more than 10 years and they continually do and say the same things regardless of what anyone else says then you can be pretty assured they’ll keep it up.
So that leaves me. How can I not feel insulted by it? This particular thing (opinion? words? occurrence?) is everywhere, which means it’s tough to avoid the situation. Even if this person doesn’t say it there are other people who are saying the opposite (the non-offensive remark) and that causes me to think of the offensive remark.
You still with me?
How do I reframe my thoughts to alleviate the insulted feeling? When does something that’s offensive cease to be offensive?
Well, your guess is as good as mine. One day, I hope someone will challenge this offense. Someone mostly unrelated to the situation… They’ll grab a big stick and with each syllable reiterate the real facts. (Ahhh, how that image amuses me!)
In the meantime, I’ll be working on me. Staying healthy, organizing, minimizing and filling my head to the best of my abilities with positive thoughts. Right now, I’m about to take another stroll to the mailbox. I just watched the mail carrier pass by; it seems as if the mail I retrieved arrived yesterday. No problem, I’ll just take another deep breath while I’m out there.