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Friday, May 14, 2010


That was humiliating!

It isn’t something I can give you any details about. Why? Number one, I’m too embarrassed. Number two, uh…. no, there’s probably really just one reason. I guess number two could be because it’s kind of personal.

You know how someone does something unintentionally (well, thinking that must be true ‘cause I don’t wanna make any assumptions) and it makes your face turn bright red?

embarrassed Well, I don’t necessarily turn bright red – just a little red – and my face was burning up. I left the room so fast I think my shadow and spirit are still back there.

It’s hard not to judge future situations and what you’ll do based on something like that happening. I just wanna crawl under a rock… never to be seen from again. I guess I can show my face to those who don’t know my shame. I can’t remember the last time I felt like this.

You best be believing I won’t do that again! Never.


Ventilation debate

I don’t know if you’ve been paying attention or not, but if you have then you know that I recently revealed that I have a boyfriend. Why the whisper? Because I think boyfriend is such a silly term/word/title/label for a 41-year-old woman. An-t-way, that’s neither here nor there; it just sets the stage for my ventilation debate. (Calm down, calm down… I’ll tell you more about him later.)

I’ve noticed over the past year or so that my internal temperature has risen. Whereas there was a time when I was normally chilly, now there’s rarely a time when I’m chilly. I like fans, air conditioner, windows down – anything that’s gonna bring a breeze and some relatively fresh air.

One of the things I don’t like about my home is that 98 percent of the windows can’t be opened because of various reasons. There are many times when the air is stuffy and suffocating and I just want to sit outside to feel some type of airflow.

200313896-001 When I get in my minivan I have to have the windows down (even on chilly mornings) or the air conditioner on. Not just the window on my side, but I need a cross breeze; a flow of air. The debate comes in when RP (the BF) and I are riding together. When I get in my van the first thing I do is open my window. I may lower it all the way then raise it a little once I get moving or I may just have a crack and I do the same on the passenger side. If RP is in the car then he’ll put the window back up and sometimes leave just a 1/4 of an inch open.

mercedes sunroofWhen we get in his car all windows are up, sunroof is closed and air conditioning is off. If it’s sweltering then he’ll turn on the air, but I’ve already suffocated. :-) He has acquiesced a little and started opening the sunroof, but for me it’s often not enough. I try to sit quietly and enjoy the ride and his company, which I love, but on the inside I’m screaming, ‘I can’t breathe, I… can’tbreatheYou picture me fading away, right? I know, I know, I’m a little dramatic.

RP has explained that he does not like the feel of Georgia air blowing in his face or on his skin. He prefers to keep the windows of his car up for – if I understand correctly – appearances purposes. He does have a nice ride with tinted windows and I must admit it looks good… However, I… can’tbreathe ROFL.

Today he rode with me to take two of the children to school and I had my window down almost the entire time. The breeze felt wonderful. I was thinking that he was probably thinking, ‘I wish she would put that window up.’ :-D … But he rode nicely– allowing no cross breeze! – and we enjoyed our moment together.

The reason I can write this and chuckle is because we don’t argue or debate and we don’t fuss or get mad; I just want you guys to be on my side. (Yes, I’ll tell him I wrote this and maybe he won’t be able to resist leaving a comment.) As a woman in her early 40s you can understand my temperature discomfort, right?

The premenopausal feelings…?

Does anyone feel my pain?

Okay, so I’m putting it to you. Windows up or windows down? Who do you think should get their way?

If you put we should always compromise then you’ll be sent dagger eyes and pebbles will fall out of the sky and get stuck in your head. If you don’t have hair they’ll stick to your head. Mwuhahahaha…


Thursday, May 13, 2010

How did you learn to blog?

It was about three years ago when I started my first blog. I sort of stumbled into blogging when an associate of mine told me I should write a blog after I told him about a book I was working on. I started a very basic blog, called Single and Celibate that’s still floating around out there, and my journey into blogging began.

That blog gave me the spark I needed to fuel my love of blogging. I started blog hopping and learning more about it then realized I would like to write a more universal one. One that incorporated more of my life and that could cover a wide variety of subjects.

Every once in awhile someone will ask me how to blog and I’ll give them a quick rundown of getting started. They usually start looking confused and their eyes glaze over… LOL …that’s when I tell them if they start one (‘cause I want to see if they’re really serious) then I’ll help them.

I don’t think there’s any one way to start; you just have to jump in. With this blog I learned as I blogged and, in fact, I’m still learning. There are things that I’d like to incorporate, changes I’d like to make and – with anything that I love – I want it to be the best that I can make it.

So, tell me, what made you started blogging? Did you learn on your own or start because of someone else?


Wednesday, May 12, 2010

Be still my heart

How exciting! I won a copy of The Threadbare Heart by Jennie Nash. I entered the the Threadbare Heart contest at 5 Minutes for Books and I’m now eligible to win the grand prize. Pop on over and take a gander at my entry; I wrote about my favorite mother/daughter pair in fiction.

I needed a little good news after the cell phone incident!


I really want to cry…

You see that pretty horrendous little, dark-colored, leaf-shaped object on the screen of my phone? Well it appears that something happened to my phone. The phone I’ve only had for a few weeks. … I am spittin’ mad (not exactly spittin’, but it sounds good and dramatic).

DSCF4463[1] I’ve retraced my steps trying to figure out what I did to it and I can’t come up with one darn thing. This is what I recall:

I was in the office and I had just finished cleaning off one of the desks and moving some papers and magazines over that were on the floor surrounding my desk. To my surprise I saw a little lizard on one of the magazines. I didn’t know what it was at first because the office isn’t well lit so I crept closer. Thinking that it was definitely a critter, I slid my phone open and called Amber who was on the other end of the house in her room with the door closed.

“Amber?! … Come here.” I whispered.

She said okay, I closed the phone and put it on my desk. At least I think I put it on my desk ‘cause that’s where I found it later when I went to look for it. When she got there I pointed and said, “What’s that?”

We discovered upon further inspection that it was a small dried up lizard. Where the heck it came from I have no idea and I’m super extremely happy that I didn’t see it while I was touching the magazines.

While she was investigating it I held my desk lamp out to shed some light on it and at one point some books that were propped on my desk fell. I jumped and she jumped.

I think I was leaning on my desk, I don’t recall anything dropping on the phone and I know I didn’t drop it. About 45 minutes later I went looking for it and found it on my desk, face down. When I picked it up that’s what I saw:


It doesn’t work… Amber tried calling and said it goes right to voicemail. Over 300 contacts are in there and I only have three numbers memorized. I could go on and on about the inconvenience of not having my phone – especially since I don’t have a landline – but I’ll just stop here. …

And concentrate on not crying… SNIFF. Guess what my first errand will be tomorrow?


Wordless Wednesday: Homework, projects



Working hard, aren’t they?

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What are you thinking?

I have noticed a lot of bloggers mentioning how they enjoy blogging, and social networking in general, because of the friendships that develop. Some of us email each other to encourage, check in and share. Outside of our blog winnings and giveaways, we send packages, goodies, notes and such. We make arrangements to meet in person at blogging events, conferences or our homes and local restaurants. We celebrate our successes together and cry when someone else cries. We help our fellow bloggers out in times of stress, distress or tragedy; even doing so when we only know the blogger through the blogging grapevine.

Overall we’re a community. A family.

That community exist within forums as well. I, for one, was surprised to discover how many there are. There are forums for mothers, singles, couples, those with new babies, those who just want to share their thoughts, those with chronic illnesses or have recovered from an illness and there are most likely more that I don’t even know about.

The Internet has turned into a place that often doesn’t feel virtual. It’s a place where we know our international friends’ names and the names of their children. We remember their birthdays and anniversaries. And we share in the successes and failures.

Some have expressed hesitancy to reveal much about themselves and use pseudonyms or code names for their loved ones. Most of us don’t reveal exact locations or the location of our work and children’s schools.

What do you think? Has this little (read: large) world of blogging and social networking made you feel more connected, love and cared for? Or is it just something that doesn’t feel/seem realistic?


Please turn the page

Amber (my sweet eldest child) and I are very close. We can normally finish each other’s sentences; we start talking about the same thing at the same time and we get each other’s jokes - normally. We’re almost always on the same page.

Almost always.

Today she is going to the community college to finish up her paperwork and registration for the couple of classes she’s going to take this summer. When I went into her room she asked me if I could fill out some forms to the best of my ability.

Sure, I say.

I get started on the forms and realize I need more information than is available on the kitchen table, which I’ve taken over during the day*, so I get up to look for what I need in the office. The office, which has papers strewn about, piled on the floor, tumbling off of books, etc. The office that I have been trying to organize forEVER. I find what I need and I rush through the forms trying to get everything accurate. I berate her with questions, telling her I need this form or I can’t read that form and on and on I go.

To put you, and myself, out of misery I’ll just get to the point: The forms she asked me to did not have to be done so she could leave the house. They had to be done so she can fax them back to her college at a later date.

Why in the world would she give me those forms when she didn’t need them right them before I had my coffee.

“Go… leave…” I say as I prepare my coffee mug. “Maybe when you get back we’ll be on the same page.”

Jan-May 09 316 I hear a teenage sigh and a “Geez… I was wondering…”

As she’s walking out of the door I sweetly say, “Call me if you need anything.”

“Yea… hmmmm? Okay.”


This photo was taken early last year. It seems to fit the post. LOL

Right now I’m just going to sip my coffee and try to grasp what I was about to do before I started filling out the forms. I’m going to ignore the papers I managed to spread across the kitchen floor and relish in my caffeine moment.

Then I’m going to make me another cup, get some work done, tackle my to-do list and try to keep the tiredness at bay. All the while I’ll be hoping that no one else will involve me with anything that is not on the same page.

*At least I’ve moved from the couch and I was in the office for a couple of days.


Tuesday, May 11, 2010

Shopping for auto insurance

I remember when I joined the Air Force about 22 years ago and my expenses exceeded my income. I would complain every month about how little money I had left over or that I couldn’t afford to purchase something. Finally, my supervisor asked me how much I was paying for different necessities. When I told her how much I paid for car insurance she recommended a different company and said I could get it for way less than I was paying and she was right.

In 1988 there was a little more legwork (cold calling or visiting offices) to find the best deal, but now in order to find the best deals on auto insurance one can simply go to and find exactly what they need in their local area.

I’m glad that I was able to get a referral years ago and now – when I need to – I refer to online resources for up-to-date information.


‘I’m getting my brain started…’

Today a spark went off in my son’s head. He realized all the reading, writing, phonics and other work he has done has an end result. I suggested that he read a book to his little sister. The only book that was out was one that was fairly long. He sat down, opened the book and his little face sort of fell to the ground.

“Too long,” I asked. “Too many words?” He nodded.

“Okay, let’s find a different book.”

We went into his and his sisters’ room where a million books are on the shelf in the closet. “What about ‘Green Eggs and Ham’ the Dr. Seuss book?”

He didn’t look thrilled.

“You can read these words… see?” I held the book open to a page and his eyes brightened and his eyebrows raised.

DSCF4460[1] He took the book, sat on the couch and read it in its entirety book all by himself. We were so proud to listen to him read (my boyfriend and I were sitting in the kitchen).

After he finished the book he was so excited. “I read it all by myself!”

We gave him high fives and told him how great that was.

“Do you wanna read another book?” I figured why not keep the fuel going.

“Babe…” RP (the boyfriend) said.

“Let’s just see what he says,” I whispered.

Andre decided on another Dr. Seuss book and read that one too. Then he went into the office, got a little notebook and a colored pencil and started writing words. He wrote, read and told us about what he was writing.

Once I looked over and he had his head in his hand, eyes focused on some far away place outside and his pencil was poised. “Whatcha thinking about?” The nosey mommy in me asked.

“Nothing,” he said with a smile and went back to writing. I joked that he was pondering, daydreaming and plotting his next educational moment. And I secretly smiled because I think the lover of books and all things learning has finally emerged in my son.

RP (who’s just as nerdy as I am) said something like this to Andre: “What made you sit down and write?”

“I think I’m getting my brain started…”


Monday, May 10, 2010

Video contest winners

This is a Sponsored Post written by me on behalf of Incendia Health. All opinions are 100% mine.

You may have missed out on entering the “You Gotta See This” Video Contest, but it’s not too late to take a look at the winners. In order to enter the contest, entrants made videos that showed the impact that improved vision would have on their lives. The video made them eligible to win cash and prizes.

Abbott Medical Optics Inc. (AMO), a global leader in laser vision correction, sponsored the iLASIK Video Contest.

Here are the prizes and the winners. The $5,000 grand prize was awarded for “You Gotta See This Music Video” by Alex. That video was not only funny, but very well done.

In category 1, My Contacts Are Getting In The Way Of My Good Time, the first prize was won by “You Gotta Be Kidding Me! A True Story” by Robbo. The prize was a HDTV package with a $2,500 value. The second prize, which is a Flip UltraHD camcorder worth $199.99, was awarded to windysail for “Contacts Stink.”

In category 2, My Favorite Sport Or Activity Would Be So Much Cooler With Better Vision, the first prize: “iLASIK Would Make Surfing More Enjoyable” by jhbmw007.  Second Prize is “Foggy Riding” by Snowman  who won a Flip UltraHD camcorder. 

In category 3, You Should See Life After The iLASIK® Procedure, the first prize for “Orbs Of Perfection” went to Danny V and second prize (Flip UltraHD camcorder) went to “Army LASIK” by ahowalton.

Even though you may have missed out on this  iLASIK Video Contest, you can view the winners as well as some of the other entries and register to win eye care products. You can view the winners — and all the other entries — at You can also register to receive valuable eye care products.

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Surprised by the death of Lena Horne

lena horne thenI can’t believe Lena Horne, legendary singer and actress, has died. Yes, she was 92 years old so it’s not surprising in that regard, but it’s a shock. I rarely post about celebrities, current news and the like, but – for some reason – I needed/wanted to make mention of her passing.

Horne’s experiences of racism and injustices opened a path for black entertainers who often mention her (along with other greats) as we continue to make strides and successes. Horne was one of the first black performers who was hired to sing with a major white band.lena horne

If you aren’t familiar with Ms. Horne then read up on her life and accomplishments. I’ll help you get started with a link to the Associated Press article posted on Yahoo News.

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