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Tuesday, October 6, 2009

D.I.M. (don't ignore me)

To be ignored is probably one of the most painful forms of rejection. It's one thing to get closure on a situation and realize that you're not wanted or needed. It's an entirely different feeling to not know why you're being ignored or why you were rejected.

It doesn't really matter what type of relationship it is: If a parent ignores you it'll hurt; if your child ignores you it'll hurt; if it's your spouse, your lover, your significant other... whoever it is it'll hurt. I'm not talking about an oh-I'm-mad-at-you-because-you-threw-away-my-chicken-sandwich kind of being ignored. I'm talking about the days, weeks and months that can pass when a person decides that they're just done with you. Finished.

What would you do? How would you react if your spouse just up and moved out one day and never said a word to you after that? What if your father decided that he didn't want to be apart of your life. Keep in mind that you haven't argued, disagreed or done anything recently that warrants such behavior.

The pain of such a rejection is like a tearing inside the heart. You can hear the rip and feel the blood dripping out... draining from your soul, leaving you empty. Scared. Wondering. Imagine how your chest would tighten and your head would throb from the pressure of not releasing the confusion, the self-defeatist attitude would build. You'd question what you did wrong then look for things that are wrong with you.

It has to be you, right?

Some would say, "No, it's not you." But it's the you that caused the action of the rejection. Something fueled the decision, caused the riff, motivated the separation.

If everyone should take complete responsibility for what they did or didn't do then it's a matter of figuring out your responsibility. Of course that's just one woman's point of view.

Remove the pain
Stop the rain
Make me sane
Once again.
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