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Saturday, July 12, 2008

I'm on 5 Minutes for Mom!!

My blog listing and interview have been published on 5 Minutes for Mom. I am so excited about this because 5 Minutes for Mom is a great site that brings moms together.

Check it out when you get a chance... I'll probably go back later to see about adding an image and updating the information, but -- for now -- I'm just excited to see it there!

About Me

My hot UK blogging buddy Tina tagged me with this one. I had to do it right away before I forgot and especially since I complained that she didn't tag me with another one I actually wanted to do. :-)

I am: a recovering perfectionist
I think: there's nothing better than writing and reading
I know: a lot of random facts
I have: four children

I wish: I had more money
I hate: wasting time
I miss: my friends who live far away
I fear: being homeless
I hear: music
I smell: uh... nothing!
I crave: a vacation
I search: for jobs and assignments
I wonder: if I'll ever make enough money
I regret: getting married :(
I love: the quiet
I ache: all the time
I am not: alone
I believe: in God
I dance: like Beyonce (just kidding! LOL)
I sing: sometimes
I cry: because I feel defeated
I fight: when challenged
I win: word games
I lose: me? lose? hmmm...
I never: have enough money
I always: have a lot to do
I confuse: my children sometimes
I listen: when people advise me
I can usually be found: on my laptop
I am scared: of heights
I need: to take care of myself
I am happy about: getting work done
I imagine: what life will be like stress free

That was harder to do than I thought it would be.

Did you read that? Well then you're it. Let me know if you post this one.

I knew that!

Your Risk Taking Level: Medium

What's life without a few risks?

You're willing to be daring when the time is right.

You know that there's no reward in life without risk.

You just always make sure that you look before you leap.


Thursday, July 10, 2008

Hair raising

I have three daughters (out of four children) so there's always some type of hair situation or conversation going on.

Daughter #1

Daughter #2

Daugher #3

Each of them didn't have that much hair at birth. Their hair was fine and thin, with my second daughter's being a little thicker than the other two and straight. My first and third daughters' hair was (and is) slightly curly.

Since my first daughter (Amber) didn't have a full head of hair until she was about three years old, I was puzzled as to why I've always had so much trouble when doing my second daughter's (Amareah's) hair. I would also fuss at her: be still, turn your head, put your head down, stop it, move your hand... I couldn't figure out what the problem was.

Then one day I said to someone, "I never had this much trouble doing Amber's hair at..." I trailed off. That's because Amber didn't have that much hair at such a young age! Ut oh, my bad.
Miss Amareah at just 3 years old has lots -- and I mean lots! -- of hair:

Although it's a beautiful head of hair it takes quite some time to style and comb, but once it's finished it always looks wonderful.

Now it's time to start styling little Miss Anna's hair...

See that cute little ponytail!?...

Luckily my teenager does her own hair now ...

... and my other child is a boy! ;-)


Cyber relationships


Dream meaning

Lost in Dreams by Jennifer Reed

Given my level of exhaustion and stress it isn't often that I remember a dream, but this morning I awoke from last night's trip into dream world with the images fresh in my mind. So fresh, in fact, that I was compelled to do a little research on the meaning of my dream.
I'll briefly tell you what happened in the dream, what I found out about the meaning of what I dreamt then I'll tell you what happened yesterday to make me think the dream was related to the "event."

The dream

Long story short: In the dream, my soon-to-be ex-husband violated me. Yea, I mean rape. Nasty little word, huh? [ Before you get too concerned: He isn't the type of person to do that. Yes, I defended him. Hey, there's no need to bad mouth him unless it's necessary. ;) ]

During this violation, which seemed to last forever and not bother me that much, I was beat up and the side of my face severely bruised. During the rest of the dream people talked about the bruising on my face, whispered about it and I touched it a lot and looked in the mirror.

The meaning

According to the Dream Moods Dream Dictionary that I found online there are, of course, a few meanings to dreaming about being raped. The one I think applied to me was: " suggests that you are feeling violated in some way. Something or someone is jeopardizing your self-esteem and emotional well-being. You feel that someone or something is being forced upon you."

Bruises have this meaning: "To dream that you have a bruise, represents stress and mounting pressure that you are dealing with in your waking life. It may also refer to a reawakening of old, family wounds. Alternatively, you need to accept the consequences of your actions. Consider the symbolism of the specific part of your body that is bruised."

Since it said to consider the symbolism of the specific body part, I looked up face and it said: "To see your own face in your dream, denotes the persona you choose to show to the world as oppose to the real you. It may refer to confrontations and your willingness to deal with problems and issues in your life. To dream that you face is flawed or pimply, represents erupting emotions. You may have suffered an attack on your persona or your reputation."

What happened... briefly

This may be a hard one to tell briefly and succinctly, so I'll do my best and if I'm not clear you'll have to let me know and I'll try to clarify. Yesterday I had a conversation with the soon-to-be ex-husband about drop off and pick up times for the younger children. I heard a lot of what he has to do and why one thing or another isn't going to work for him. It all stemmed from me asking him to drop them off later on Mondays.

As you know, they're home full time cause the spouse said he can't afford daycare making my work time and time to schedule appointments nonexistent. So, I've requested at least one weekday every 14 days to be able to schedule doctor's appointments (remember my health issues?) and work uninterrupted. He tells me he won't be able to get anything done that day if he drops them off later.

My response was pretty much that I couldn't get anything done any day and I'm only asking for one weekday every 14 days. I stuck to my guns and didn't let up on getting that one weekday.

He implied that since I didn't want to work out our marriage then this is the way it has to be or something like. So, is this punishment for not wanting to stay married to him?


Well, that's the extremely short story -- with a lot of omissions -- but hopefully you get the point.

I left that conversation feeling violated, taken advantage of and beat up. It's definitely a stress-inducting situation that I have to deal with in my "waking life." But I feel like I dealt with it as best I could, which was addressing it and yelling at a friend about it later (erupting emotions?).

Get the correlations?

I'm not sure what it means about the people who were talking about my bruised face because I didn't look that part up. Maybe I don't want to know.

Whew! That was long. So, tell me, have you had any weird dreams lately?

Wednesday, July 9, 2008

Tuesday, July 8, 2008

My Tarot Card

I saw this on Tasha's blog and I had to try it out. I think the result was so cool... kind of fits given the turn of events in my life a year ago. If you take the test let me know what it says about you.

You are The Tower

Ambition, fighting, war, courage. Destruction, danger, fall, ruin.

The Tower represents war, destruction, but also spiritual renewal. Plans are disrupted. Your views and ideas will change as a result.

The Tower is a card about war, a war between the structures of lies and the lightning flash of truth. The Tower stands for "false concepts and institutions that we take for real." You have been shaken up; blinded by a shocking revelation. It sometimes takes that to see a truth that one refuses to see. Or to bring down beliefs that are so well constructed. What's most important to remember is that the tearing down of this structure, however painful, makes room for something new to be built.

What Tarot Card are You?
Take the Test to Find Out.


Give Me Five Monday #28

This weeks topic is...

Give Me Five ways to fit exercise into your life.

1. Chasing after my 1, 3 and 4 year olds.
2. Dancing with my teenager. (I think I'm getting pretty good at doing the Beyonce booty shake! LOL!)
3. Getting up during commercials to do chores.
4. Doing five minutes of jumping jacks when I get up from my desk to get a drink of water.
5. Instead of carrying a laundry basket full of clothes to the back of the house I walk back and forth quickly to put the items away.

To check out more participants or play yourself, go to Becca's Buzz.

Trashcan transformation

As soon as I get a little "extra" money I am changing all of the trashcans in the house to ones with lids and little foot presses. Out of four children this last one (Miss Anna) is the only one that won't stay out of the trashcans.

I am tired of saying no and re-directing, etc. It's a little frustrating (besides the fact that she gets into them) because I've always been a mom who never had to move stuff from under cabinets and things so I feel like I've lost the war.

The last one finally broke me. I. have. been. defeated.

(Yes, that's my style for the week: When I want to emphasize something it will be overly punctuated so you get my point!)

Magic Lamp of Luck

I could definitely use a little luck so when Tammy passed tagged me with this I got busy posting it.


The mighty Genie King and the beautiful Genie Princess from the magical Land of Faraway are back! Upon escaping the clutches of their Evil Master after being held captive for 1000 years, the magical genies have been busy flying on their Magical Flying Carpet, granting wishes and spreading love throughout the blogosphere.And now, the genies are back with a special gift for everyone! Behold the sacred, Magic Lamp of Luck! With this magic lamp, your blog will enjoy much good luck and fortune, warding off all things evil lurking around in the blogosphere. We would like to share this magic lamp with you so please pass on the Magic Lamp of Luck to those in need of some good luck. Remember, do not be greedy or unkind, evil or vengeful and good luck & fortune will always be with you! Join us on another exciting magical adventure as we spread goodwill and good luck to one and all!

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This is the updated master list as of 1:22 a.m. on 7/9/08! :-)

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I'm passing this to SoccerMom and Mom.


Can't do it

It's been about three weeks or so since the younger children came home full time and I've realized there isn't a way to get it all done. The housework, the looking for a job, the taking people to work, the caring for children, looking for writing assignments, trying to make money, the errands, the paperwork, the doctor's appointments... I. have. not. found. a. way. to. do. it. all.

I can't say there's always something undone because everything is undone. The house is always a mess. I always have to clean up just to fix something to eat. It's the teen's job to clean the kitchen, but every meal whether she's here or not I have to clean up. Wipe the highchair. Clean off the toddler table. Clear the counter. Sweep up the floor.

Then I stop. Turn in a circle ... and can't remember what I was about to fix.

Walking through the living room is liking walking through a disaster zone. Where did all those toys come from? I know I just hid a bunch in the closet yesterday.

Breakfast is late because they wake up late. They wake up late because they go to bed late. They go to bed late because we don't get in until late because of the teen's job. It's a vicious cycle.

And don't get me to talking about the carpooling and the job. I went into the summer thinking I would have someone else to help get them back and forth to work. I mean, that's what the other teen says. Then I found out from the mom that that's not true. So they get her a car, she has her license and they finally get full coverage on it AND SHE CAN'T DRIVE IT TO WORK.

Sorry, I didn't mean to yell.

She can drive it to within 10 minutes of the job, but not all the way. WHAT THE FREAK KIND OF SENSE DOES THAT MAKE.

Uh, sorry.

I'm overwhelmed. I can't get anything done for leaving to take someone somewhere or taking care of someone when I'm home. I might as well stop saying I'm a WAHM.

Okay, so I should get up off my "lazy" butt to exercise. Let's see, after I finally fall into bed at about 2 a.m. after trying to get some work done I can get up at uh 4? 5?

Yea, that'll be great for my health. Three to four hours of sleep a night is the only way I can think of to get in some extra hours.

I'm so frustrated... I don't even know if this makes sense. Sorry for the rant. Gotta go fix lunch now that I remembered what it was I'm fixing.

A meme of 5

I saw this one over at Mummy Diaries (hot blogging buddy Tina) and I grabbed (yes, stole) it because she didn't tag me! LOL.

The rules of the game get posted at the beginning.

Each player answers the questions about themselves.

At the end of the post, the player then tags 5 people and posts their names, then goes to their blogs and leaves them a comment, letting them know they’ve been tagged.

Let the person who tagged you know when you’ve posted your answer.

1) What were you doing 5 years ago? Wow, I only had one child and had been married about a year. I can't think of what else I was doing.

2) What are 5 things on your to-do list for today? Take Amber and her friend to work. Buy a bulb for my desk lamp. Clean up (never ending). Look for a job and a writing assignment. Blogging, of course.

3) What are 5 snacks you enjoy? Mini dark chocolate. Almost any 100 calorie snack pack thingy from Nabisco. A bottle of water (does that count as a snack?). Cheez-Its. Blueberries.

4) What are five things you would do if you were a billionaire? Pay off my mother's bills. Pay off all of my bills. Invest and save to make even more money. Produce and distribute my inventions. Treat three close friends to anything they wanted (within reason! LOL).

5) What are five jobs you’ve had? Toll collector. Administrative assistant in the Air Force. Associate editor at a magazine. Substitute teacher. Freelance writer and editor.

I'm not going to be tagging anyone this time because, as usual, I'm gonna break the rules. (That and the people I would normally tag have already been tagged.) But if you do this then you have to follow the rules. ;-) If you do this please let me know because I'm interested in reading more about you.


Monday, July 7, 2008

Sorbay update

Remember I told you about the SorbayPC Lozenge? I recently did a review on this lozenge that was developed to be a convenient way to freshen the palate. It is said to be the only product to effectively eliminate residual food flavors that are responsible for yucky mouth.

I received a great explanation of this product from Kim Zaharias, director of Public Relations at CRW & Partners. She said:
The problem is that mints are used to cover up the bad breath/tastes and are usually flavored using oils. Oils “dirty” your mouth versus cleaning it. SorbayPC doesn’t have any oils in it. You should literally feel that your mouth is cleaner and the coffee (or whatever residue flavor) is gone. It’s very hard to change people’s thought process as most people automatically think “mint.” We like to think of mints as Febreeze for the mouth (cover up) and SorbayPC as Lysol for the mouth (clean and sparkling).

Check out my review and do give these lozenges a try (they can be purchased at Bon then come back and let me know what you think.

Where's the spider?

I'm not the most pleasant person when I'm awakened from sleep. I'm even more unpleasant if something or someone awakens me more than once.

That said, I must admit I went a little Hulk-like when my son woke me up at about 5 a.m. this morning whining about a spider. (This was after the baby had woke me up at about 4 a.m. and it took me 30 minutes to get back to sleep.)

Now, I'm sure you're saying: 'What a mean mommy to get upset with the boy for seeing a spider!' Well, before you wiggle your finger at me and give me a little tsk tsk tsk, let me tell you about this spider.

About three days ago my son came out of his room and said there's a spider under his toddler bed. I went in the room, looked under the bed, shook out his cover and looked all around ... I didn't see a thing. He talked about that spider for most of the day and he said, "I heard it."

I, in my most patient voice, said, "Andre, spiders don't make noise."


I implored the teenager, "Please go look for this spider. Maybe it's a cricket or... uh, I don't know... can you please find what he's talking about."

She looked. Twice. No spider. No cricket. No bugs of any sort.

The next day. "Mommy, there's a spider under my bed."

"Amber! I thought I asked you to look for the spider?!"

"I did," she says giving me an exasperated look. "I didn't see anything." That's when I find out she had looked several times.

During the course of a couple of days, I hear him and his middle sister talking about the spider:

"There's a spider under my bed."

"You saw the spider?" she asks.

"Yea, I heard it."

"Yea?" .... "Yea... there's a spider under your bed."

OMG, I think.

That brings us to this morning... bright and early at somewhere between 4 and 4:30 a.m.

"Mommy," he comes in my room and his words are actually punctuated by snivvles. (You know what snivvles are right? They're sniffles and whines that are used during talking so the words come out sounding like the child is sitting on a vibrating chair!)

Now before he even tells me what the problem is I'm already a little miffed. I had just dozed off and the baby, who I had to put in my bed, wasn't all the way asleep.

He tells me about the spider. Again.

"Andre, there isn't a spider. I looked. Amber looked. Go back to bed quietly!"

I wrongly assume he goes to bed. Then I hear it: Sniffle.

I sit up, I wait. I lay back down.


I start to breath heavily.

Sniffle. Why can I hear him sniffling so clearly, I wonder. I must be hearing things. I lay down.


OMG! I begin to turn into a big green giant. I swing my legs over the bed and throw open my door (as quietly as possible so I don't awaken the baby). He's standing outside of my door. Sniffle.

I pull him with me into the room. Pull everything off his bed. Shake it all out. Turn the bed over. Shake the bed. Pull stuff from under the bed. Shake the stuff. Okay, so I didn't just do that I also did a little mumbling, some yelling and grumbling.

"There's no bug. None. Not a one! Go. To. Bed. Now." (Actually I put him in bed with his sister -- yes, in another toddler bed -- where he's been sleeping for three nights.)

So, where is the doggone spider? I've asked him if he'd been dreaming, if he saw it in his sleep (yes, I know it's the same thing but he doesn't)... I showed him that there's nothing under his bed, on his bed, around his bed. Aargh.

I know all you uber-patient mommies are gonna implore me to reassure him some more and all that stuff, but I would rather just find that doggone spider -- imaginary or otherwise -- and squash it!
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