I am in the middle of reading an article in the November issue of Good Housekeeping - you know the one with the family from "John and Kate plus 8" on the cover. The article is in the Good Advice column and it's titled "Lost... and Found." It's an interesting article about how Americans are reconnecting in record numbers, but explains that there are huge rewards and big risks.
The article's author, Sarah Bird, uses her own search for a college friend as inspiration and experimentation in the article. For my purposes here, that's not really important, but it gives you a little background. She figures that she may need to contact her "lost love" to facilitate the search and asks a developmental psychology professor to get her take on it whether that would be a good idea.
The expert tells Sarah that 50 percent of people she surveyed who rekindled a relationship say they had wonderful marriages before they reconnected. Here's the part that I thought was very interesting: The expert, Nancy Kalish, Ph.D., said, "... Some neuroscience research suggests that early loves are encoded in the brain, the same way cocaine addiction is. Seeing that person again, talking on the phone, even e-mail triggers all those visceral memories of being young and in love."
Wow. Young love is a powerful thing, huh?
Have you ever contacted an old flame? If so, do tell.
Thursday, November 20, 2008
Where's your first love?
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Very interesting research! I've never contacted an old flame but yet I am married to my high school sweetheart. The ones before him weren't much of flames I guess!
I've talked to my high school sweetie, but I remain unimpressed. There is a reason he's in my past. Ha ha!
Well, it still depends on the person but I do agree that young love is really instilled in our hearts though it's up to the person if he/she will treasure that old felling or left it buried. Interesting research though!
Interesting topic. I did reconnect with an old boyfriend once, after ten years lol. It was a nice get-together although only lasted a short while.
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Hi, sorry I haven’t been around for a while I lost my internet access and got a temp dialup service but the speed made it pretty useless.
I generally don’t contact my ex’s I like to the past in the past.
I read this too! Glad to see you are getting through your pile. I have reconnected with an ex-boyfriend through facebook. To me it is no big deal. I am from a small town so I am friends with several people I have dated in the past. My husband is not from the same town but he is friends with those people now too...
Yes. We made out and thirty seconds later, when I came up to breathe, I looked at him and realized why he was an ex. Homeboy has such thin lips!
Nah....But once I asked to a friend of mine if she used to see him.She told me that he was married, had children, was working in a carnival and was fat!That was a huge turn off to me!Bwahahahahahah!
xoxoxo
no no no i wud never have gone back there haha!
although one of my exes recently tried to add me as a friend on facebook after the last time he saw me 10 years ago he stood me up. was he for real!!! :0
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