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Thursday, November 20, 2008

Where's your first love?

I am in the middle of reading an article in the November issue of Good Housekeeping - you know the one with the family from "John and Kate plus 8" on the cover. The article is in the Good Advice column and it's titled "Lost... and Found." It's an interesting article about how Americans are reconnecting in record numbers, but explains that there are huge rewards and big risks.

The article's author, Sarah Bird, uses her own search for a college friend as inspiration and experimentation in the article. For my purposes here, that's not really important, but it gives you a little background. She figures that she may need to contact her "lost love" to facilitate the search and asks a developmental psychology professor to get her take on it whether that would be a good idea.

The expert tells Sarah that 50 percent of people she surveyed who rekindled a relationship say they had wonderful marriages before they reconnected. Here's the part that I thought was very interesting: The expert, Nancy Kalish, Ph.D., said, "... Some neuroscience research suggests that early loves are encoded in the brain, the same way cocaine addiction is. Seeing that person again, talking on the phone, even e-mail triggers all those visceral memories of being young and in love."

Wow. Young love is a powerful thing, huh?

Have you ever contacted an old flame? If so, do tell.
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